Where does victim consciousness come from


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Where does victim consciousness come from
Background on the origins of victim consciousness
Four aspects to our being and victim consciousness
Spiritual aspect
Emotional aspect
Physical aspect - the body
Mental aspect

Addressing victim consciousness
Developing response patterns and what we think about the cause
A victim of our own thinking
The issue of ego and victim consciousness
The bottom line of victim consciousness and victim mentality

In the topic, “Victim Consciousness - Victim Mentality,” victim consciousness is said to be to give away our creative power and/or deny our creative ability in a way that does not serves us. The  important point here is we give away our creative power. For some reason or another, we deny what is within us. We deny our own ability to create. Rather we look outside ourselves for what we ourselves can do. The question is, “How do we create a victim consciousness or a victim mentality such that we don’t know our own creative power and/or are afraid or unwilling to use it?”

Background on the origins of victim consciousness (Top)

The answer is that physical Creation by design is to create a victim consciousness. It is not designed to create victims but design to get us to create experiences such that we give away our creative power and believe that we do not have the power to become the cause of what we experience. Physical Creation is about forgetting and losing ourselves within our creation. By forgetting how we create our experiences and losing ourselves in our creation, we cause ourselves to be controlled by the circumstances we face in our creation.

The “trick” to create the physical experience is to use the natural process of consciousness awakening and going to sleep. It is for our consciousness to choose to enter a physical body and then have to await until it grows and become self sufficient. In the process we forget our own creative power and creative ability and become so overwhelmed in what we are sensing we believe we are the product of the experiences we have in Physical Creation. That is, we develop our enculaturated mind and forget everything in our transcendental mind. That is, we believe we are human and believe our life starts with our physical birth.

Then, as we being to move into life and exercise our desire to creatively play and to spontaneously and innocently discover and explore our world in that childlike innocence our play becomes thwarted in some way. We begin to learn to withdrawal and not act from the truth of our being and what we feel. Begin to look outside ourselves for clues as to what we can and can’t do and how we should or should not act.

When we are an infant, we are mentally free to do whatever we feel like doing. We have no judgement and or preconceived ideas as to what is acceptable or not acceptable, safe or dangerous. In innocence, and if we were innocent now, there is nothing that we would see that would cause us to feel threatened. Anything and everything that threatens you comes from past experiences that we have had.

As an infant, we feel no constrains on any of our actions until they are somehow imposed from our external world. Until we learn otherwise, we are free to live whatever is in our hearts for we had yet to develop the awareness of mind and life experiences to choose what we liked and disliked about the life we are living. Having a like or a dislike is always based on some past experience. We have no basis to make any judgement about the unknown.

As we grow, we began to experience the fact that there are things that we are lead to do but our care givers feel or think otherwise. Subsequently, they control our actions in someway. Depending on how we are raised, some of us were gently lead to learn particular patterns in life where as others of us were forcibly if not violently lead. What we experienced from our care givers many times was based as much on our own temperament and desires as much as what was done to us. We either became to feel very controlled and dominated or loved and nurtured, and of course, with a infinite number of shadings between these extremes.

As a child, and as we still do, we craved love, affection and attention. If we don’t get that love, affection and attention we feel a type of pain. There are many things natural to the truth of our being we learn to suppress within ourselves to ensure the love, affection and attention of our care givers.

Few of us had been loved unconditionally. Whether our care givers realized it or not, they expected us to grow a certain way which they considered normal and/or they way they wanted us to be. They did what they could to help us to achieve normalcy as defined by them and society. It may be something as simple as our care givers expecting us not to cry when they were busy attempting to do something other than give us attention.

In any case, early in life we learned choose in a way that we expected the external world will give us a pain free life and that we get what we wanted. We were taught to respond to the external world and what it could give us. We were taught everything comes from outside of us. We were not taught how to create what we desired and become the cause. We were taught only to respond to the world.

The deepest origins of victim consciousness lie in the fact that we had to give up our preferred way of being and doing in the world to get the attention and affection of our care givers and what we desired and wanted in life as we explored life. More importantly, in not being allowed to be in our preferred way of being, we never felt what our truth feels like freely expressed in Physical Creation

Four aspects to our being and victim consciousness (Top)

The question that ultimately needs to be asked relative to creating a victim consciousness is, “What part of ourselves did we learn to deny in this process?” To being to understand how to address this question we need to realize that, although we are an infinite creative being, we can see the human being as a four stringed instrument possessing a spiritual, mental, emotional and physical aspect. As the strings on an instrument, we must learn to tune and play each one of these aspects of our being.

Spiritual aspect
(Top): As discussed in the Creation Story for the Creativity Perspective, the consciousness within creation created an illusionary separation such that each aspect of its being became an independent point of consciousness capable of awakening to the whole. As such there are things that we know about Creation unique to who and what we are. It is an awareness to which others can awaken but it is something we carry and is natural and inherent to our being. The expression of this aspect is the source of our creative power and creative ability. When we access it and live it, we become the source/Source of creation/Creation. As we grow into it and awaken other aspects of our being, we move from the awareness of the source to the awareness of the Source. Yet, rather that being allowed to unfold the spiritual truth within our being, we follow what others think is the spiritual truth we need to know and to practice. Consequently, we give away our creative power and creative ability when we do not access the truth within our being. We seemingly become powerless in certain situation and hence think we are a victim and are at the mercy of the world or some external God. We fail to develop the awareness within our own being as to the source/Source of our creative power and creative ability. We are much like the eaglet and the lion cub discussed in the topic, “The Human Condition as Seen from the Creativity Perspective.”

Emotional aspect
(Top): Whether we realize it or not, our creative power is accessed through our feelings and what we sense. Unless we feel the need to act for whatever reason we feel, we will not act. We need a flow of energy within our being to make something happen. The greater the creative effort, the greater the feelings, the passion and the flow of energy we need to have. Emotions are simply strong feelings labeled by the mind. We need to be open to what we feel and be allow to experience the feelings we have. This is especially true early in life if for no other reason to know what we feel and what it feels like to feel. Most of us are not allowed to be in strong emotions and as such, we never learn to properly channel the feelings into creating experiences which serves us. If we are not open to feeling, for whatever reason, there is a aspect of our creative power which we deny. In denying that creative power, there are areas in our life in which we become powerless or have insufficient power to make certain things happen. Here again, we then appear to be at the mercy of the external world.

Physical aspect - the body
(Top): From a creativity perspective, the body is a creativity machine and is a vehicle for a physical experience. In particular, it is for a particular type and kind of physical experience which we call the human experience.. The body does two primary things for us. One is that it grounds or direction our creative life energy into the physical experience. The second is that it allows us to take the energy we sense and the thought which arise from that energy and transform or convert it into actions in the world. Yet, it helps to create a victim consciousness in two ways.

The first way our body creates a victim consciousness is that our consciousness incarnated into a body required us all to learn to feel the body. We need to learn to its pain, its hunger and its tired. Any pain we experience is our pain. No one can share our pain the way we feel No matter how supporting and loving our care givers may have been, the fact is that they could not and cannot remove our pain. Although we many not want to feel pain, feel hunger or feel tired, our consciousness seems to have little control over the body. We seem controlled by our body and its pain. As a minimum, we can expect that most of us feel somewhat controlled and dominated by the needs of our bodies. We tend to identify ourselves with our bodies. Many of come to feel and think we are our bodies because the needs of the body and the experiences of the body so dominate our early life.

The fact that we are susceptible to feeling pain has been used by many individual to control others. They do so by causing us to experience pain at some level of our being to control one or more aspects of our being. It is only natural to feel we are a victim held captive by the body. Many spiritual traditions seek to transcend the body and the body is seen as somehow less than that which is spiritual. The body is seen as holding us back from our true identity. It is quite natural for us to develop defense mechanisms or methods of protecting ourselves from pain and/or perceive pain or painful conditions.

The second way our body helps create a victim consciousness is that to fully use the body as the creative tool that it is, we must learn how to use it. We each need to be given a safe space to be allowed to experience the range of what is possible in and with the body. But each society, family and social structure has its way of allowing the body to be used or not used. As such, there are aspects of our creative power and creative ability we never tap into simply because we have never been given the safe space to experience what our body can do, experiment with how and what it senses and how it response to what it senses to convert it into creative action. Here again, by not experiencing the full range of creative power and creative ability to us, we become victim of situations in which we could otherwise creatively respond.

Mental aspect
(Top): The main way we develop a victim consciousness is that our consciousness comes to believe we are our bodies and gives itself an identity because of the experience we have in the body. Consciousness defines itself by the experiences it has. Since we forget our transcendental mind and so many of our early experiences are of the body, we identify with the body and treat aspects of our consciousness as if it functioned as the body.

How this works is relativity quite simple. The brain of the body is the central processing station for all the sensors the body possess. It is the brain that assimilates and integrates all the sensor input of the body into a composite picture of the condition of the body and its environment. The brain’s primary function is to assimilate all the sensory input to protect and regulate the body and assist the body in living its physical existence.

Human experience has shown that individuals with dis-functional brains, will not exhibit the type and kind of awareness and mental capabilities that we consider as being a normal human. Hence the brain is seen as the location of where our consciousness and mind reside. It is seen as the center of our thinking and seemingly our awareness. Quite naturally, we associate our mind, that thinking, judging and analyzing part of our consciousness with the brain and head and attach the identity our consciousness forms about itself, the ego, to the body and the functions of the brain and its sensory input. Our mind believe it is the experience of its sensors and our ego comes to believe it is the experiences it has had.

Since most of our early life experiences are focused on learning to utilize and manipulate our bodies, we tend to define ourselves by the external experiences we have rather than by what experiences we may have internal to our being. When we are young, and frequently encouraged by our care givers, we tend to dismiss internal experiences as the product of our imagination and not real. We tend either disregard what we feel internally or look externally for what is causing us to feel internally.

Additionally, the brain and the awareness of our mind is focused on protecting the body and surviving in the world. That need to protect the body gets transferred to mind and mind learns to protect the ego it creates from the experiences it has in the body in the same way it protects the body. It similarly protect what it thinks and believes.

Mind in learning to protect the body creates the seeds of a victim consciousness. That is, the consciousness within mind suffers and feel pain as a result of external influences on the body. Yet consciousness never realizes that it is not experiencing the pain of the body. Rather the body is experiencing the pain and the mind of consciousness has simply identified itself as the body. The consciousness had not realized what it feels is not determined by the external world unless it choose to be so affected. Whether or not our consciousness becomes a victim consciousness because of the experiences it has had depends entirely as to whether or not we feel we are powerless to negate or remove the controls of the external world on the pain and discomfort that we feel within our being.
A victim consciousness is where our consciousness thinks we are a victim controlled by our external word and that we are unable to do anything about it and we lie at the mercy of these external influences.

Victim consciousness boils down to not realizing that we can create something from nothing. That is, we can choose to experience joy and happiness where there is none. We can choose to create joy within our being even when the body is in pain and suffering. That is what it means to be the creator and to create something from nothing. The world before is a world of form that arose out of the formless or non-localized energy. It is no more real that what we create inside ourselves. It is only a matter of what we believe and where we choose to place the focus of our attention and awareness.

Addressing victim consciousness (Top)

The seemingly easy, simple and straight forward approach to addressing victim consciousness is to first remove ourselves from the external power or situation that has control over us. Then, look to see how or were we were allowing ourselves to be a victim. That is, look to were we turned our free will and power over to the one who was victimizing us. Then choose to act in such a way where we no long give our power away.

Unfortunately, it is not that simple. The experiences we have in the past is what determines how we frame or characterize any energy that we experience. The fact that we remove ourselves from the experience of being a victim and have created a different way of responding in such situations does not remove from our mind the fact that it may have no other way to characterize the energy that we experienced other than as being a victim.

The problem is that although we have seemingly forgiven and forgotten what may have been done to us, the victim experience that we had, suffering at the hands of another, may be the only experience we had with that type and kind of energy. In the future, every time we experience such an energy, our mind frames it such that we have victim’s response to that energy. That is, we implement whatever defense mechanism that we developed to response to the victimization that we had. Even if we catch ourselves following into the role of a victim and response based on our new response patterns, our mind still has the memories of being a victim.

A simple example. Someone leaves a metal rod half lying in the hot coals of a fire place. Another tells us to take it out and put it on the stone ledge surrounding the coals. Since we never did this before, we grab the piece of metal and get burnt. We get angry at the person whole told us to pick it up because they did not warn us it was hot. We may forgive them and forget that they every told us to pick it up, but every time we go to pick up a piece of mental in what seems to be in potentially hot coals we will use something to protect our hand for we will have experienced the energy of such a situation as something that is can be hot and painful unless we are protected. The protective action that we learn to implement to prevent feeling pain will be carried with us into the future. It is very difficult to break the habit and trust that every piece of metal half in hot coals will not be hot for our experiences would suggest otherwise.

But there is nothing wrong in doing this. We do this same type of thing for every experience of pain that we have at every level of our being. It makes a lot of sense to continue to utilize techniques of the past when there is a real bonafide hazard and we can protect ourselves from that hazard based on past experiences.

At first glance, nothing seems wrong with developing these protective response patterns because we will learn to protect ourselves in the future. However, there are two issue of which we need to become aware when we develop response patterns.

Developing response patterns and what we think about the cause (Top)

The first is to realize, “Whenever someone tells us to do something in which there is a rather obvious hazard, and they do not warn us about the hazard, are they intentionally trying to hurt us?” What do we think about the person who tells us and does not warn us. Do we see ourselves being used and/or abused with no concern for our welfare on their part or do we perceive them in some other way? What is important here is what we think about them and what we are unwilling to do for ourselves.

If we think they are responsible for warning us of the hazards, we are a victim for they have control over us. To not become a victim requires us to know to ask if there are any hazards for which we need to take protection. But we rarely do that for anything that anyone asks of us or tells us to do. We then act based on their request/direction and are somehow harmed or injured. When things work in what we judge to be in our favor, we never question the motives and interests of the person telling us or directing us to do something. If however, we suffer some type of injury, there is the possibility of us questioning the motives of the one who directed us to act. It doesn’t matter what their motives really were. If we believe they were out to harm us, we give our power away to them. We then being to respond to them in a way we will protect ourselves rather than to be open to what the situation has to offer. We being to develop a victim mentality or approach about this person. Also, our response may not always be conscious. We may response consciously one way but nonconsciously moving or positioning ourselves to defend and/or protect ourselves.

The issue here, of course, is trust. Can we trust this person to be concerned with our best interests This of course, brings up a very interesting issue about victim consciousness. If we cannot believe that a particular person would allow us to be harmed or even is intentionally out to harm us, we create some “outside” force or influence that is causing them to respond the way the do.

One of the more common and classic issue here is God and the Devil. Many have characterized God as only capable of doing good and having our best interests in Its actions. Hence, the need for a Devil. If God can only do good, then there must be evil to account for things that happen to us that God would not do to us. What we don’t consider is maybe our understanding and concept of God is not quite right. Maybe there is another way to view things. But this is true about what we think about our mother, father, spouse, lover, children, friends, enemy or anyone. That is, “Are we attributing motives and actions to them which may not be true but only our opinion, our judgement or out thinking imposed on them?”

What needs to be understood, is that whenever we attribute motives to another which are not correct and cause us to response one way over any other way, we are creating a victim consciousness. That is, we are giving away our freedom to respond in the way that best serves us. To response to a true outside hazard in the best way we can allows us to move in a way that best serves us. To response to an illusionary hazard limits our freedom to do what best serves us.

Within the creativity perspective, the recommendation made here is to look carefully at the words that are spoken and the deeds that are done and look to see if they are consistent with each other or there is a disconnect. Does the individual’s action or the experience we have about something bear the fruit of what we believe about them. We know something works whenever we use or do something in a particular way and we get the same, or at least similar, results. If something does not give us consistent results we begin to ask if maybe what we thought is not correct. The same is true for anyone or anything in our life, including our ideas about God. If we don’t challenge our own thinking, we are held victim by our own thinking. We have a victim mentality.

A victim of our own thinking (Top)

It is said above, there are two issue of which we need to become aware when we develop response patterns. The second issue is that as long as we are guaranteed that the energy of the situation will always ways flow the same way, using previously developed response patterns is a very wise way to live.

However, the energy will not always flow or follow the path the path that we expect. Energy will follow the path of least resistance for the situation as it is. We, as others, have a free will and ability to change the energy of the situation. We can become the cause if we so choose. Even if we experience the exact same energy flow as the past where our response pattern could be the perfect response pattern, our own thinking will change the flow of energy for we are not the person who responded in the past. We are a creative living process continually changing in response to the experiences we have.

When dealing with what we call the inanimate forces of nature, we can almost always guarantee the energy will flow the path of least resistance. Since, the energy flows through or around inanimate objects, we can become quite good at predicting the flow pattern. That is the whole basis of physics, chemistry and astronomy and, the evidence suggests, that it is a correct understanding for how successful physics, chemistry and astronomy have been at predicting the outcome of any given arrangement of energy it studies.

However, when it comes to pain that has been caused by another individual, who has a free will and consciousness unto themselves, although the energy that is being experiences may feel the same, we need to look carefully as to whether or not we are open to what is as it is or we are judging the energy from past and our ego. When free will is involved, the energy no longer flows along that initial path of least resistance. It flows in the direction of where the consciousness has focused it attention and awareness and a new terrain or landscape is create for it to flow.

What needs to be understood here is this is true for us and or the other individual. We each affect how the energy will flow. We can surrender to what is as it is or we can response based on how and what we think and believe. When individuals are out of mind, out of the thinking, judging, analyzing and controlling part of their being, the energy will flow according to the path of least resistance for the arrangement of objects. When we are in our thinking, judging, analyzing and controlling mind, the energy flows according to where and how our have focused our attention and awareness.

Hence, if we have a perception and view that is characterized as being a victim, a victim consciousness, every experience of energy we have we will experience as a victim to some degree. Because we have focused our attention and awareness on being a victim, that is how we will experience the energy. The fact that a big powerful person gets excited and forcibly tells us to stop doing something does not necessarily mean they are trying to control us. They may only be personally excited and are trying to prevent us from harming ourselves. However, what we experienced is the past interprets that excited energy as being another attempt by a powerful person to control us.

But then how do we know that the seemingly controlling actions of a powerful person truly have our best interest at heart and they are protecting us. How do we know we are not being controlled and manipulated for their ends? The answer, within the energy consciousness perspective, is to understand whatever we experience, we have chosen to experience at some level of our being for some reason. If we cannot trust their action, we need to go within and ask, “Why have I created this experience where I don’t know if I can trust this person?” Similarly, if we feel fear, we need to ask, “From where does this fear arise that I am experiencing?” Or, we may simply need to ask, “Why did I create this person in my life such that I am having this experience?”

If we listen to our intuitive guidance, we will get a reply. We may not like what we get, but we will get a reply. The question is do we want to become consciously aware of how and why we create the experiences we do or do we wish to remain in ignorance of our own creative power and creative ability. To remain in ignorance is to remain in a victim consciousness. We have to take responsibility for what we create, all of it, if we are going to step out of a victim consciousness.

The issue of ego and victim consciousness (Top)

The ego is simply how our consciousness has chosen to define itself based on the experiences it has had. It is who we think we are and how we think the universe operates. However, the consciousness that created the ego is much more than the experiences it has had and used to define the ego and we have more than one ego. One is an enculturated ego based on the experiences of this life. The other is a transcendent ego which is based on the memories that you hold and carry your from life to life.

Only the encultruated ego and the physical body are actually touched with anything that happens on the physical plane. What we carry with us beyond the physical plane is our choice based on what we refuse to let go. The aware consciousness that is witnessing the experiences we have is untouched and unaffected by what it experiences unless it chooses to be affected. There is no need to transcend the physical plane. We only need to allow the energy of each experience we have like the wind - coming with nothing and leaving with nothing. Although the consciousness is never touched, the enculturated ego is very subject to injury and much like the body. Quite simply the reason for this is that it thinks it is the body for it is the experiences of the body which give it its identity.

If the enculturated ego perceives someone intends harm it will defend itself whether or not the individual means harm or not. However, because of the experiences of life, the enculturated ego is very wounded. It exist almost as an open wound. It remembers all that has happened to it for what has happened to it is what defines it. In the same way a cut will bleed blood, the enculturated ego that is wounded bleeds creative life energy and literally and figuratively drains the energy that we use to create and sustains the reality that we experience.

We only need to touch one of its painful memories and it will response and remember the pain. In doing so it will response in anger, withdrawal or some similar defensive action and that defensive action drains your power to respond. A simple word, a gesture, by another that we may not even be aware of may be sufficient to cause a response. The enculturated ego always thinks the other is responsible for causing our pain because the enculturated ego is defined by what you have experienced from our external would. Obviously we feel pain when someone or something external to us invades what is ours - our body, our beliefs, our opinions, our space, our property. We carry our wounds with us. Our whole enculturated ego is constructed of many wounds and we carry them around everywhere. Our consciousness does moves to stop the bleeding of our creative life energy though these wounds by some type “protective” action or defense mechanism.

The enculturated ego itself is not the problem. The mind defending the enculturated ego and protecting it from the wounds of the past is responsible for it holds to these defensive actions. In reality we safeguard and protect our wounds rather than healing them. It takes energy to maintain those defense and that is less energy available for creation.

When one is capable of living without being tied to an enculturated ego as a detached witness, there is no enculturated ego to defend There is no enculturated ego to be wounded. There are no open wounds of the past. The individual is health, healed and whole. We needs to become aware of our wounds and not help them to grow or to continue to bleed.. Wounds only heal when we move to address the root of the wound and remove the protective actions that we implemented that do not allow them to heal.

The source of the wound is what the mind holds and remembers. When we move out of mind we move away form the wound and the wound heals. With no mind or out of mind there is no wound on which to hold. When we feel hurt we become disturbed and our attention and awareness focuses on the pain. That weakens our creative power because it directs our energy into how to stop the pain, and/or how to get even or obtain justice. We are hooked and give our power way for pain of the wound is the focus of our attention and awareness. We give it away to the one who appeared to cause our pain.

We can spend a whole life time of energy the more we nurture that wound and “want justice or accountability” in that other individual. No matter what happens to us and whatever pain we feel, nothing can take our creative power away unless we give it away. We give our power away by financing those memories that demand justice and/or retribution for the pain we have been given. Our creative power is taken away simply because we focus our attention and awareness on those memories.

Only we can recall and reclaim our energy. It is not about learning to forgive and forget. It goes deeper than that. It is about changing how we are allowing ourselves to experience the energy that caused our pain. We will continue to have those experiences that rob us of our energy for as long as we hold onto to them as the way we experienced the energy of Creation for we manifest that on which we focus our attention and awareness.

The bottom line of victim consciousness and victim mentality (Top)

From an creativity perspective and how energy and consciousness interrelate to create our experiences, no one makes us a victim. We determine if we are a victim or not no matter what happens to us. We may create situations unknowingly that cause us to experience situation were we could say we are a victim but no one truly makes us a victim.

Within the energy consciousness understanding, the person in front of us is only there to give us the experience we ourselves desire at some level of our being. We question their motives for doing what they do to us and we question God and Creation for allowing us to experience things which are unpleasant. However, we rarely stop to look at the question, “What is really the nature of Physical Creation?” We have our ideas of how we think Physical Creation should be and how our lives should be. Maybe we are totally correct. But maybe we need to create it for what we desire is not the current way Physical Creation works.

Any creation starts with what is, as it is. It, or a part of it, is then transformed into the desired creation. We hold a victim consciousness or a victim mentality whenever, for whatever reason, we refuse to look at what is, as it is and begin there. People are what they are. Creation is what it is. To give either any creative power other than what is, is to adopt a victim mentality for we are giving away our creative power in the process. Simply to believe anything happens to us without our participation at some level of our being is to give a way our creative power. We may not like what we experience and we many not have known exactly what we would be experiencing when we made or choice, we nevertheless, made the choice to experience what we do.

We need to accept what is, as it is, and start there. It is there we are at the point of our creative power. It is to be present to the moment and what each moment has to offer without the biases of our own mind.

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