The need for particular others to access the intention for our life
A Releasing Your Unlimited Creativity discussion topic
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The need for particular others
to access the intention for our life
There is an interesting "quirk" in Creation that is seldom realized. As a result of the origins of Creation, the intention and flow of energy giving rise to the experience we have, and the uniqueness of each individual and aspect within Creation, each situation we face, causes, or is the occasion for, certain types and kinds of feelings to arise within us. Within the feeling which arises is an awareness.
The awareness within the feeling is about the situation, the environment and, most importantly, the origins of the flow of energy which we experience. Within those feelings are insights about creation/Creation, ourselves, why we are in the situation, and what needs to be done in the situation we face to allow the energy giving rise to the experience we have to flow freely into dissipation. Such feelings are unique to the situation and the objects/entities within the experience
Although the feelings may seem similar to other feelings we had or can have with another or within another situation, they will be unique to both the situation and what lies within the environment including the individuals with whom we interact. The particular feelings will never arise in exactly the same way as a result of being with any other individual or in any other situation. The implication of this is that certain particular individuals, environments and/or situations will cause us to access the intention for our life and there are some which can allow us to access it much faster and easier than others.
This fact, in turn, give rise to the "quirk." That is, particular individuals, environments, and/or experiences are needed for certain types and kinds of realizations about creation/Creation. The question we face is, "Who are the individuals and/or what are the environments and/or situations we need to face to access the understanding and information to create what we desire or obtain what we seek?"
It is entirely possible for any aspect of consciousness to focus its attention and awareness to cause itself to mimic or copy any facet of Creation and become like the object of its focus. This is what the education process is in essence all about. An individual makes a discovery about Creation or manifests a creation of some type and kind of creation and others then learn to copy or mimic what they do. However, the understanding, experience and/or situation which gave rise to the discovery is not the same and learning about the discovery.
We can form ourselves into, or become like, any aspect of creation by how we focus our attention and awareness. However, we cannot form ourselves to have the actual experience which give rise to the understanding of which we study. This is why teaching intellectually knowing something about Creation is not the same as having experienced it and obtaining and the experiential knowing. More importantly anything we learn in copying, following or mimicking another is not the same as discovering and doing it ourselves and coming to the awareness or understanding by ourselves. On first glance, these seems like a trivial issue of little importance. But when it comes to revealing and understanding the true nature of Creation, and most importantly, the intention for our life, it is of most profound important. Only certain types and kinds of experiences lead to certain types and kinds of experiences. Only we can live the experience necessary to understand the intention for our life and it will take particular individuals and types and kinds of situation to understand it.
The reason for the phenomenon that particular individuals, environments, and/or experiences are needed for certain types and kinds of realizations about creation/Creation, can be seen two ways - one is through the "cutout and the hole" and the second is we each are an aspect of the infinite consciousness of Creation.
The cutout and the hole (Top): One way to understand why we need a particular other is to realized we are a creation within a creation. We create the reality we experience through a set of common "rules" for what it means to be a human being in Physical Creation today and we use our creative life energy to create "cutout and a hole" as discussed in the topics "Implication of pair production in our creative endeavors," and "The environment and the unfoldment of a creation" analogous to the way the energy of a photon creates a particle and antiparticle.
To return to the Source, that place of no form or "no-thing-ness" we need to bring each individual piece of the cutout together with its reflection in the hole to annihilate the form. Each annihilation releases and supplies the flow of energy that animates the experience we desire to have. When we allow the energy to freely dissipate as opposed to holding onto it in some way through a judgement of our mind, that part of our being returns to the Source and we move one step close to experiencing total wholeness. When we hold onto any aspect of the experience positively or negatively because of a judgement we make or preference we have, we binds our energy and keep ourselves attached and bound to Physical Creation.
This is how we set up our incarnation to have the experiences we desire. In essence we create two parts to our experience. One is an overall form we create reflective of being a human being. It provides the general and collective aspects of being a human being for the time and place we incarnate. The experiences that result from this aspect of our creation are relatively easy to have. Other than trying to change what it means to be human, these experiences we incarnated to have in this category and generally fulfilled just by living.
Trying to changing this part while incarnate in Physical Creation is like flying to the moon for it means trying to change what the collective perceives being a human being to be for this time and place. It can be done but takes a tremendous amount of energy to escape the pull of the collective much like a space ship requires a tremendous amount of energy to escape the pull of gravity. Additionally, it requires some alternative ways of life much like an astronaut in a space suit on the moon. That is, we create an environment that is not our natural away of being a human being for our time and place of incarnation.
The second part of our creation is reflective of the experiences we desire to have. Here we set up particular connections with other aspects of Creation such that we can only annihilate that connection in having an experience in or with that aspect of Creation. It is here we need to have particular types and kinds of experiences if not particular types and kinds of experiences with a particular individual to have the experiences we incarnated to have. The experiences that result from this second aspect are more difficult to have. Here we are lead to specific types and kinds of situations which requires us to go to our heart and what we feel to know what we need to do. To have the experience we desired to have we must surrender to the flow of energy created by the intention for our life and literally feel our way through the experience. If we rely on mind, most probably we will miss the experience we desire to have and cause ourselves to remain bound and attached to Physical Creation in some way.
These types and kinds of experiences give rise to the belief we have a soul mate. That is, someone with whom we have total completion and fulfillment. In part, this is true. We do have totally completion and fulfillment when we allow the energy created in such an encounter to freely flow to dissipation. Often the experience feels orgasmic which further reinforces the belief the we find fulfillment in a soul mater. However, each of our incarnated experiences can give such an orgasmic feeling. It is for this reason it is said our life can be an ongoing orgasmic experience for each experience we have can give the feeling of a totally completion and fulfillment if our mind allows it to do so.
One question which does arise is, "What about missed experiences and/or incomplete experiences?" Missed experiences and/or incomplete experiences are what gives rise to the concept of Karma and gives rise to the ongoing dance of Creation. It is these experience which also give rise to the teaching in many traditions where it will take many lifetimes to access Nirvana and obtain freedom from Physical Creation.
It is the implications of incomplete or missed experiences is the basis as to why it is so important to learn to navigate from the heart and have the experiences we incarnated to have. Using the concept for how we create our experiences of Creation, for those experiences that are missed for whatever reason and cannot be obtained in this lifetime, setting the intention to surface all the obstacles that have, and do interfere with following the intention for our life will surface the issues that have blocked us in this life and removed them from interfering in the future. Similarly, we can set the intention to free ourselves from the past and obtain as many unfulfilled or uncompleted past experiences as possible in this lifetime which originate in our past. In this regard, we can use our current life to free ourselves as much as possible from future incarnations. The choice is, and always has been, our choice.
However, the second way in conjunction with this way to understand this "quirk" of creation leads to way that we can actually free ourselves from experiences we incarnated to have in this lifetime and from missed or incomplete experiences from previous lifetimes. The combination of these two ways of understanding the "quirk" of Creation open the door to freeing ourselves from the past in all ways and all aspects to create total freedom in one lifetime. That, is we can go into our nonconscious mind as discussed below and ferret out the intention and reasons for uncompleted past experiences. In the awareness of how and why we create those connections, we can change or remove them or create an experience in this lifetime that sufficiently addresses the issue. It is here metatheater, simulation, reenactment, and the like can be very useful. The only real constraint is how much time it takes to create the conditions to free ourselves.
An aspect of the infinite consciousness of Creation (Top): The second way to understand this "quirk" of Creation is to realize as discussed in the Creation Story for the creativity perspective, each facet of creation is a unique aspect of the infinite consciousness that created Creation through the illusion of shattering itself. We are only the infinite consciousness of Creation having an experience of its creation. Although we each contain the infinite and all facets of Creation within our being, we only awake to what is needed to have the experience of Creation we desire. To awaken any one aspect of our infinite nonconscious conditions must be correct for its awakening. For example, we could not awaken to the concept of the nucleus of the atom until we had a concept of the atom. Similarly, although we can form or mold ourselves to experience any aspect of creation by how we focus our attention and awareness and can learn to mimic or copy any facet of Creation, it take an actual experience of that facet of Creation to have truly experienced it and awaken ourselves to that aspect. This is why teaching intellectually knowing something about Creation is not the same as having experienced it and obtaining and experiential knowing.
This aspect of Creation does not readily allow us to see how we create the path as to how we incarnate to have certain types and kinds of experiences. Conceptually all of the conditions which give rise to any experience we have lies within our nonconscious mind. But since it is in our nonconscious mind, we are not conscious of how we do it. Our problem is compounded because the conditions which give rise to the experience we have are scattered, fragments and spread through out our entire nonconscious mind and/or go very deep like roots of a tree.
Exactly what facets of our nonconscious mind giving rise to the creation we experience lies outside of what our mind can readily access. We create the starting situation through some type and kind of attachment which will allow us to seek certain situations in life to find the unique facets of Creation that will give us our desired experiences. That is, we create the conditions which allow us to find or have the experiences we need to have to learn exactly what it is we desired to from consciousness. It is as thought we create a list of things to do and see in Physical Creation in order to have the desired effect. We then go do them creating the life we desired to experience. It is this phenomenon which reinforces the thinking we can find a physical soul mate. Given how and what we think we are because of the experiences we have had in Creation, there is a facet of Creation when experienced provides very intense, pleasure and fulfilling feelings. In looking to see what cause such experiences, we think we found our soul mate. However, rather than finding our soul mate, we simply have found that facet of Creation which allows to fulfill what we have come to believe. They are the occasion for what we experience, not the cause. The cause is the fulfillment of one of the key experiences we incarnated to have.
The reasons for our incarnation and how we set up the life we are to live was done before our current mind as we know it and understand it come into existence. The topic "A model for how our nonconscious mind holds the beliefs to create our experiences" provides a concept discussion as to how this may work. We can only set the intention and feel our way to the answer. To explore these connections, our efforts will appear as though we are blind and traveling by feel or digging a mine tunneling to the source of the issue. Often we will feel as if we hit the "Mother Load" - a rich vein of understanding and awareness about ourselves and our past. At other times it is as though we are in a hit and miss operation with most of our tunnel seeming a fruitless journey into the unknown.
What we feel give rise to what we call our intuitive guidance, body wisdom and internal knowings for each arise from the flow of energy we sense. One of our greatest challenges in life is to discern the differences in what we feel without allowing mind to overlay its past experiences so we can access the awareness that exists in what we feel. In particular, there is (1) the awareness of what gives rise to the what we feel, that is the intention which caused the flow of energy we experiences, and (2) there is the awareness of where the flow of energy is leading. Analogously, the flow of energy is like looking at a river. If we follow the river upstream, we can understand its origins and source. If we follow the flow downstream, we can see where the river will carry us if we enter its flow.
If we look carefully, we will come to see we are forced to seek to return to certain types and kinds of experiences and certain types and kinds of environments and/or individual(s) to have certain feelings and/or gain the awareness which lies within those feelings. No amount of study, learning, contemplating and the like will obtain for us what we need to obtain in experience. Similarly no substitute experience can replace the real experience. Using a simulator, no matter how good, can only go so far into creating a real experience if we know we are in a simulator. The question is, "How real does the experience actually have to be for us to believe it is real?"
This question, in turn, provided the understanding that if what we believe we experience is real, a simulation can be, and is just as effective at provided the experience we need to have. The question here is, "How do we create a simulation in such a way that we totally think and believe it is real?" It is here the assistance of another is needed and/or for us to be out of mind to one degree or another. That is, we are outside of our thinking and judging mind and what it knows. If it knows it a simulation, it will not give the effects of a real experience. If it thinks it real, a simulation can provide an experience of the equivalent of being real without the consequences. This is the whole basis of initiations, metatheater and the suorephex. The each provide a way to create an experience which we think is real and allow us to access something that was otherwise unaccessible.
What we seek in life and the types and kinds of experiences we desire only certain individuals and/or situations will be capable of causing them to happen. As a result of the uniqueness of each individual, no other and nothing else can cause, or will be the occasion, for such feelings and the awareness that lies in those feelings. The reason for this is the intention for our life is directly related to incarnating to have certain types and kinds of experiences and those certain types and kinds of experiences are determined by the uniqueness of each individual. To release ourselves from such required experiences we need to go back to the reason that we creates such an attachment in the first place and change it and/or address the issue that gave rise to it.
Relative to the intention for our life, there are individuals and situations which will allow the feelings which provide the awareness to arise faster than others. We can be lead to those situations by following our internal compass to the situations and environments that cause the fulness of being and our inner satisfaction to increase. These feelings will lead us to the types and kinds of experience where we can feel the expansion or blossoming of our own being. In doing so, we obtain the minimum set of experience for our mind to consciously piece together what we need to do in life.
In knowing this, we can allow our mind to become involved and direct our exploration. Mind can use our internal compass, the fulness of being and our inner satisfaction to construct the types and kinds of experience that cause these feeling to increase. The experiences themselves can be real or simulations. By having mind working with the our creative spirit and the direction provided by our internal compass, we can more quickly and readily gain that minimum set of experience. But, we must always allow the feelings of expansion and the blossoming of our own being to our guide, not what mind wants or desires.
The discussion above provides an explanation as to how and why it works this way. In essence, as a result of how creation/Creation arises, a part of our being is annihilated and the masculine and feminine aspects of Creation are joined as in joining or coupling the terminals of a battery. The energy necessary to give rise to the experience begins to flow and carries us through the Source of Creation, that place of "no-thing-ness" and no form, and into the experience we desire.
In the awareness of the Source we will know what we need to do in life. It will be a feeling and we it may or may not be reflected in a mental knowing. If it arises as a mental knowing it will most probably be in error until we get the minimum set of experience for mind to properly characterize the feeling we experienced . If we do not stay focused on the feeling, mind comes into the picture and tries to determine what needs to be done with our life. In staying focused on the feeling we gain the freedom to not be locked in an endless circle of going over the past in a way that does not ultimately serve us.
Creation is not done alone. We need another or others to give us the experience we desire and/or need to have. They may not be aware of the role they play. But, nevertheless, creation/Creation is not done alone. The topics, "Origins of Creation," "The observer - observed pair and the nature of duality," and the "Environment and the unfoldment of a creation." provide some understanding as to how this is possible and why it is true. There is much wisdom and understanding accessible within each of us within the infinity of our being. We can access it. However, different individuals, environments and situations will cause different things to arise. We each are unique. Each individual and each facet of Creation is unique Each will causes something unique to arise within us. The question is, "What do we need to cause to arise to free our creative life energy bound in the past or in desired experiences of this lifetime?"
What another causes to arise within us is not necessarily something that we will consciously see and know. When individuals are regularly in our life, or we are within a certain type and kind of environment, we learn to know what to expect and being to act without thinking. When there is some type and kind of change with the individual or the environment, our mind interjects what it thinks is occurring based on what it thinks we need and it is not correct. We have not learned to stay with the feeling and read the new situation as to what awareness lies within. Rather we go to mind and recreate the past. As a result, we seem to continually go around in circles never creating exactly what is needed.
We will only find the intention for our life and know what we need to do in and with our life if we stay focused on the feeling of the fulness of being in whatever form it takes either an inner satisfaction with life, wonderment and "ah" or something similar. We need to learn to become open to the dance. We need to learn to follow the feeling and the awareness within the feeling as individuals, situations and the environment dance into and out of our life.
Early in life we are taught to follow the lead of our mind. We learn to both interpreted what we need to be doing in life and how the world works by how we think and believe. In that interpretation we are not faithful to what we feel. If we are open to feeling we will see we only cause pain and discomfort within our being if not anger at not being free to follow what we feel. When we are open to feeling, no matter how much we want, or desire, to do what the world wants, we will find we must follow what we feel or there will be pain. It is a pain frequently so discomforting that we will look to some way to numb or suppress it creating one or more types and kinds of addictions or addictive behavior. When what the world wants is different than what feeling and awareness within our being requires us to do, we clash with the world. This is, of course, annoying for those in our life. But we have to follow the feeling no matter what mind wants, whether it be our mind or the mind of another. Otherwise, we will be lead to suppress and numb the pain we feel and/or close ourselves to what we feel and the awareness that is available to us.
To access the intention for our life, we need to be lead in life in a different way. Mind only knows the past and what we have experienced. In the awareness to follow what we feel, our mind interprets that to mean to do what it thinks and/or wants need to be done based on what we believe and what we think. But it was not about following what our mind perceives as such. To follow and flow with the feelings is to realize the individuals in our life, the environment and the situations are the occasion to cause feelings to arise within. In discerning what we feel it is not about following what our mind thinks. It is about following the feelings which arise within. In following those feelings and the awareness which arises in those feelings we will know what needs to be done and how to respond to whatever we experience. Without those feelings, we are like a rudderless ship simply going around in circles of the past or drifting with the currents relative to what need to be created in the situation. However we look at it, we will need to have others in our life in some way to have the feelings which create our life. We need to follow those feeling but not in the way our mind understands leading.
In accessing the intention for our life, contrary to what impression this material may give our mind and what we have come to believe, we have followed the lead of the awareness that lies in what we feel to be lead to read this material. In one way or another you have followed the feelings that arise within as a result of meeting this information. In this regard, the awareness for the intention for your life lies in the feelings that brought you to this material.
We each are unique. No one is able to cause the feelings that give the awareness as to what needs to be done in, and with our life, other than us. But another will be the occasion for the feelings to arise. On this point, what is caused to arise within us as a result of this finding and reading material need to be followed fully to the very end. Doing so will take us one step close to the awareness of the knowing the intention for our life.
If the feeling guiding our life ever become too weak to know which direction to move in our life we need to remind ourselves to seek to meet with the intention for our life. Setting that intention as a single point focus will carry us there even when we seem to have no guidance. In this regard, we need to consciously ask to know and meet with the intention for our life and open ourselves to understanding what it is trying to communicate. We need to keep faith through all that happens even if it takes years and followed what we feel no matter how close or distance knowing what we need to do if life is. We need only seek to continue to honor what we feel that gives us the fulness of being and makes us feel full of, and passionate about, life.
In following what we feel to find the intention for our life, we cannot expect that others will ever understand how or why Creation works this way. We may never understand it ourselves. We may hope to show others how and why we need to do what we need to do. But we must give up on them understanding. Our path is unique and the uniqueness of us all is what gives rise to the Creation we experience. Our desire should be to (1) come to know the awareness that lies within feelings and learn how to use it and (2) to become aware we have to look to see what we feel in different situations and with different individuals for different information lies within each feelings. In learning this, we can learn to tune our mind to discern and access information about our life and learn to create a life worth living - a life in which we can spend eternity doing it if we had to do so and yet find complete satisfaction in eternity living that life. We need to remember, we need to follow the lead of what we feel but that we need the other to give us the experiences we incarnated to have.