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The “baggage” around sex and
sexuality
In exploring our creativity and/or
pursuing a
creative endeavor,
feelings of sexuality can arise since
sexuality is inherent to the creative process. Sexuality
then becomes an issue because we are not
free to response as necessary to the flow of energy we feel in
the creative endeavor as a result of the baggage we carry around
sexuality.
Background issues
There are two main creativity issues which
involve the baggage around sex and sexuality. One is the
free flow of our
creative life energy into manifestation and its
dissipation. The other is
the awareness which lies in the feelings.
Whenever we engage in a
creative endeavor
the flow of energy that will manifest our creation enthuses our
entire being. Whether we are open to feeling it and flowing with it
is a separate issue. However, often that energy flowing to manifest
our desired experience in enthusing our entire being can cause
sexual feelings to arise. For large creative endeavor and recreating
our life, large flows of energy will be required and we can expect
sexual feelings to arise. Whether or not we act on the feelings and
engage in sexual activities and whether or not we should engage
sexuality is not the issue discussed here. The issue is whether or
not the energy is
free to flow into the desired creation or does the baggage we
carry around sex and sexuality cause the energy to become diverted
or thwarted rather than flowing into
dissipation.
The second issue is in the awareness of what we feel. There is a
clarity about what we need to do in life or with our life which
comes in a knowing. The knowing is only accessible through
feeling - the deepest feeling to which we can go. These feelings,
unfortunately, arise and come through the body and lie beyond the
types and kinds of feelings which can arise in sex. Consequently,
most never see this knowing or use it because when the individual
feels these feelings they tend to move toward engaging in sex
thinking they are sexual feelings when they are not. The issue is
not whether or not one engages in the sexuality feelings they have.
The issue is whether or not the energy is allowed to freely flow
into the fulfillment of the desires of the
creative spirit what gives rise to such feelings. It is to
get
past sexuality to access
the awareness that lies in the feeling. To do so is to be able to use the
body as the tool that it is to access information as to how we need
to live our life and to create
a life worth living.
The reason why the feelings that provide the awareness about
what we incarnated to do lies behind the types and kinds of
feelings we get in sexuality is quite simply. What we incarnated to
do is what brought us into life. It is what gives us life and a
desire to create a life. In particular it is a life to have the
types and kinds of experiences we incarnated to have. As this energy
which brought us into the world enthuses our entire being creating
the desired life, it is only natural it will enthuse our sexuality
and give rise to sexual feeling to create life.
As a result of the “baggage” around sex, the sex tends to divert the
attention and awareness of the individual in a way that usually
keeps the individual from accessing the awareness and the knowing as
to what we need to do in life in one way or another.
What is the “baggage” around
sexuality?
The answer to the question, “what
is the baggage around sex?” probably has as many answers as there
are individuals in the world. From a
creativity perspective
and its impact and influence on our
creative
ability and creative power, the answers as to what is the
“baggage” around sex is reflected in the following criteria. They
can be used to gauge the extend of the baggage we carry around sex
and sexuality by how close we can come or don’t come toward living
these statements. Of course, the closer we can come to living as
described here, the less baggage sexuality will have in influencing
our creative ability and creative power. The less we come to living
these statements, the more issues we will cause to interfere with,
and divert our attention from achieving the
creative endeavor
and the flow of energy which enthuses our being and gives rise to
the feelings of sexuality.
For any experience we have in
creation/Creation
or of creation/Creation, the goal is
total freedom. It is to be like the wind - coming with nothing (no
attachments or expectations) and leaving with nothing (no
attachments or expectations). It is to be
free to be in the spontaneously and innocent
childlike play
of exploration and discovery of ourselves and the world we
experience.
In relation to love,
love in the creativity perspective is to
create the space
for the creation to freely grow and unfold true to itself and to
creatively shape shift to become whatever is necessary to
nurture the creation. It is to give what the creation needs and not
what
mind wants or thinks is needed.
Relative to sexuality it is to see the life and flow of energy
created within the other individual, within oneself, and the life
that is created between the individuals as the creation. All three
need to be given the space and nurtured so each unfolds true to
itself. Creation is magical enough for this to occur if our
mind allows it. Besides,
we cannot give what we do not have. If
we do not give the space and nurture the life that is created within
us as a result of the sexuality, we will be unable to understand and
properly give the space and nurture the life which is created within
the other individual as a result of the sexuality and life created
between the individuals, the offspring of the sexuality at whatever
level of being it is created.
Baggage in relation to creativity and any experience of
creation/Creation
refers to anything that does not allow for the
free and unfettered expression of our
creative spirit and to dance between the desires and wants of
the
mind and the total
surrender
to the flow of our
creative life energy that enthuses our being to fulfill the
wants of the heart. Relative to sexuality, the baggage is
anything that does not, or will not, allow the energy to freely flow
into
dissipation for the intended experience.
The issue we face is understanding what is actually giving rise to
the sexuality we feel and what is the intended experience.
Sexuality is literally and figuratively about bringing life, a
flow of energy, into our being and into the world whether it be
spiritual, mental, emotional or physical life. Talking about all
that could be baggage is too large a discussion. It is easier to
understanding the baggage one carries by looking at “baggage free”
criterial for expression of the energy that arises to one degree or
another in the form of sexuality and/or sexual feelings.
When and if, the individual is
free to engage in sex in the spontaneous and innocence of
childlike play
of exploration and discovery being like the wind, coming with no
attachments and expectations and leaving with no attachments and
expectations coupled with the intention to give
total freedom to the individual with whom they engage and for
the energy to flow freely in that individual in all ways, there will
be no baggage around the sex/sexuality. Such an experience is
exquisite beyond belief. However, giving such freedom to the other
individual is very hard to do because our desire for pleasure and
control tend to keep this from happening The exquisiteness of the
experience of such freedom in the flow of our
creative life energy causes the
ego to want to own and control it and keep it for itself. This,
in turn, kills the freedom.
Another way to look at the baggage around sex is to realize there is
not a person on the face of the with whom we could not have a
intimate, passion love affair at any and/or every level of our
being, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and/or physically. All
that stands in the way is our own
mind. The question is, “What does not allow us to have such a
relationship?”
A third way to look to see if we carry baggage around sex and if our
mind is are trying to exert control is whether or not we are
overwhelmed and are able to
trust the creative process. In seeing and feeling the fullness
of what is within our being that flows from the
source/Source
as a result of the experiences we have had, we cannot deny that to
another. We feel so full of life and abundance all we desire to do
is
create the space
for the other to experience the same inner joy, satisfaction and
contentment. It is much the way a young child passionately desire to
share what they have learned with another. They desire to give it
freely and willing so that another also has it and can share in the
thrill and excitement the child has found. This is our true nature.
Our true nature is that of a spontaneous and innocent child
discovering and explore itself and their world.
In this overwhelming feeling of abundance of life and energy, and as
a result of it, we are
free to tell our partner from the depth of our being and allow
them to act as lead something equivalent to the following statement.
“You have been the occasion for me to have the most exquisite joy
and pleasure of life. I am so full of life and abundance within my
being, that all I can do is share what is inside me with the world.
If you are so lead, feel free to give to another what you have given
me.” Or, do we try and control, own or otherwise try and keep
captive the
creative spirit of the other person in some way so that we have
what we want when we want it refusing to share what we have found.
From the human perspective achieving what is required to become
free from the types and kinds of
baggage around sexually related experiences is close to impossible. But,
nevertheless it is to look at these conditions as a criteria that
will allows us to see what lies behind the feelings when the
feelings originate from the intention for our life and whether or
not we carry baggage that will interfere with the unfettered
expression of the energy. What we need to do in, or with our life,
and how we choose to act on any sexual feelings we have is our
choice. The issues is whether or not our actions lead us to
freedom or further and deeper entrapment by our
mind and ego in its desires and
attachments.
Two point do need to be made here. One is if the sexual experiences
we have are not causing us to experience an exquisite joy and
pleasure in life and feel so full of life and abundance that we are
not lead to share what we found with others, then we can be assured
there is some baggage we are carry that is not allowing us to be
free. The second is, we do not have to have sex with another to
share the life and abundance we have found. We only need to be
willing to
create the space
for the free expression of their
creative spirit. Their creative spirit in the
freedom of a
safe and secure space
will lead them to the experiences they need to have to experience
exquisite joy and please in life and a feeling of
fullness of being and abundance. Similarly, in us being willing
to create the space for the creative spirit of another to be free to
express itself, we will give the same gift to ourselves. We will
understand what we need to do to find the freedom to allow our
creative spirit to freely express itself.
To explore the baggage we may be carrying around sexuality, we do
not need to engage in any type or kind of sexuality activity.
Completing something like the
"Belief
and thinking inventory on sexuality" is more than sufficient to
begin to see the baggage that we are carrying. Or, we can simply watch
the thoughts we have about issues of sex and sexuality and
pull the string to explore
the
origins of those thoughts. They will tell us a lot about the
beliefs we carry on the subject that is not allowing our
creative life energy to freely
dissipate.
A comment on “free” sex
In talking about the baggage of
sex and sexuality some may interpret what is said here as free sex
and the freedom to be promiscuous in the sex and sexuality. However,
nothing is father from the truth.
Energetically, sex is literally and figuratively about creating life
both within and without. There is always an
offspring of any joining and it can be spiritual, mental,
emotional physical and/or any combination. But there is always an
offspring. The flow of energy in the sexuality goes somewhere and
will take on a life of its own. In that joining a part of each
always goes into that offspring. The offspring is a creation, at
whatever level of being it exists, and must be properly nourished.
If that creation is not properly nourished, that part of us that has
energetically gone into that offspring also dies and/or becomes
damaged. How we experience that energetic
death/damage depends on
the awareness we possess about what we are doing.
To freely engage in sexuality without awareness of the offspring
will cause our
creative life energy
to be bound in ways that we do not understand. To regain and
reconstitute our
creative
ability and creative power it will take deep inner exploration
to free the energy. This is one reason why it is so important to
pull the string on the intentions and desires we hold to get the
root of the desire or intention. We bind our energy at the deepest
levels as to where our intention originates.
If we think sex is only about creating physical offspring and as
long as we prevent the conception of physical offspring that there
are no issues, we will be
binding our
creative life energy spiritually, mentally and emotionally in
such a way we bind ourselves to being human and
the human experience. We then become puzzled as to why we cannot
access the depth and breadth of our creativity and desired
experience. In doing so we will never experience the
freedom of
Heaven, the Kingdom of God or Nirvana here an now. This is why
so many spiritual traditions talk about celibacy and the need to
transcend the physical. But nothing is father from the truth. The
issue is our
attachments and those we carry with us unless we remove them.
Our attachments arise as a result of our
belief structure and how and what we think and believe about
ourselves, any other and the world in which we find ourselves
because of the experiences we have had.
The key is to understand the energy behind our sexuality and what is
really giving rise to the energy flow which we feel in our bodies as
sexual excitement. We then need to see how
free the energy is flow to
dissipation to manifest the desired experience of what is giving
rise to the flow of energy. In this awareness, we can see how
sexuality can be used as a tool for enlightenment and being to
understand the
creative tool that sexuality is. We may also being to understand
how sexuality can be used in our
creative endeavors
and/or to explore the unknown.
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