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Support for, and getting support from, another can be broken up into
several topics. They are:
Nurturing a creation, including the unfoldment of an individual’s
creative spirit (Top)
Nurturing a creation is about giving to a creation what it needs and
not what we think it needs. It is about becoming a
creative shape
shifter to shift our shape to give the creation, whatever the
creation may be, what it needs to grow and freely unfold true to
itself. It is about creating a
safe and secure space for the
creation and providing the
nurturing feminine creative energy it
needs to grow. It is about creating a space allowing another to
become who and what they are without imposing anything from the
outside. Of course, this is very hard to do for any individual for
each time and place an individual comes into the world the world
influences the individual to adapt to that world including what the
individuals in that world think and believe about themselves and the
nature of Creation.
When we talk about
love in the creativity perspective, we are
talking about giving unconditionally a sufficiently large,
safe and secure space and nourishment a creation needs to grow and unfold
true to its nature without outside influence in any way. The lack of
this love in the form of not allowing another to become who and what
they are without imposing anything from the outside, or the betrayal
of it, when one is being intimate lies at the root of many of the
things that make us
fragment
and scatter our
creative life energy.
The lack of such love does not allow us to create what we desire and
often makes us unable to finance health and other creative endeavors
in our life.
This kind of
love, supporting another to become true to who they are
in
intimacy with the deepest levels of our being can help us heal,
brings happiness into our live, and allow our
creative spirit to
become
free. We tend to look to drugs, diet, exercise, surgery,
religion, spiritual experiences and the like to make us well and we
avoid smoking, stress, drugs, food, “bad” company, and the like to
not make us sick. Yet we fail to consider how important it is to
become intimate in a space where we are free to become who and what
we are, true to ourselves from the depths of our being. We forget
there is a
life giving spirit within each of us that
has a wisdom
unto itself that only need to be free to express itself to gives us
these gifts.
We tend to look at health, whether it be spiritual, mental,
emotional, and physical as something that can be found outside
ourselves such as finding the right person (teacher, lover, doctor,
etc) or the right environment. Although the
environment is important
for any creation, health is not about finding anything outside
ourselves but becoming the right person that we need to be. That is,
true to who and what we are and what the
creative spirit that
brought us into life desires to express. This, in turn, leads us to
the right people and the right environment that nourishes our heath
in any and all levels of our being and similarly allows us to access
and reconstitute our creative ability and creative power we need to
consciously create what we desire. In this regard, we, as any
creation, need this type and kind of loving environment for us to be
free to become who and what we are.
Being a rainmaker, dream midwife or dream nanny
(Top)
The
rainmaker, dream midwife and dream nanny are transition
individuals. They are temporary and serve a required purpose for the
duration of the task and then leave. They are individuals who
understand this type and kind of unconditional
love and can create
the
safe and secure space that is needed. The different only where
in the process the provide the
nurturing feminine creative energy
and create that safe and secure space.
The
dream rainmaker is present at or near the start of the process. They
provide that fertile, nurturing,
warm and fuzzy space needed for the
creation to be conceived and grow. They function much like the life
giving rains that water the parched dry landscape to create the
conditions to bring forth life. They provide a warm embryonic womb
much like a fetus forms in the womb or a seed germinates in the
unseen below ground. In many ways much of the work of the rainmaker
is unseen like what is done in the womb and/or below ground.
The
dream midwife is present at, near and/or during the birth of the
creation. That is when the creation comes into form and begins to
take its place in the world. In the same way the midwife helps the
birth process, the dream midwife helps to bring the creation into
the world. But they can provide more than with a midwife can do and
in this regard, they are more like a doctor. They are capable of
intervening to bring forth the creation if for some reason or
another it become stuck or is having a difficult birth.
The
dream nanny is present after the birth of the creation into the
world. They provide the
nurturing feminine creative energy and the
safe secure space for the creation to learn to “stand on its own two
feet” in the world. In this regard, when the creation is an
individual recreating their life in some way, the dream nanny
educates the individual, as appropriate, to become true to
themselves and to learn to follow their own
intuitive guidance to
create their life.
The
dream rainmaker,
dream midwife and
dream nanny are in many ways
special individuals. They give what is needed with no concern for
themselves or what they will get from the creation. They give out of
a very deep
love for the creation which is coming into existence.
They see their role totally in service to the creation. They know
and understand the creation must be
free to unfold true to itself.
They know that if the creation is an individual recreating their
life, that individual must be totally
free to choose or not to
choose the
dream rainmaker,
dream midwife, or
dream nanny to be in their
life after they have completed their transition. This is very
difficult for most human to accept. After giving so much to a
creation it had for a human not to expect something in return. But
to be truly
free to unfold, there must be
freedom in all ways. This
is why it is very difficult for a spouse, lover, parent, guardian,
and the like to be the rainmaker, dream midwife or dream nanny for
their spouse, lover, offspring or the one they are guarding. There
must be no attachments to the finished product in any way. The
individual who recreates their life must be totally free to choose
or not to choose the rainmaker, dream midwife and dream nanny to be
in their life after the service has been rendered. If the rainmaker,
dream midwife and dream nanny are attached to the creation, the pain
can be excruciating in the separation. But the separation must occur
or there will be no freedom and all the work done will be in vain
for the attachment will stifle the growth of the creation at the
deepest levels.
Dancing the inner and outer dance in the awareness of the nurturing
process (Top)
Being a
dream rainmaker,
dream midwife and/or
dream nanny, although not
impossible, is not something most are not capable of doing simply
because of the issue of how we attach ourselves to that to which we
give our
creative life energy. Most of us expect something in
return.
The way around this is to realize the need for an
inner dance and an
outer dance.
The inner dance is about being true to who and what we are and to
honor both the
inner masculine
and
inner feminine
to realize there are things that we need for us to be able to be
fully present to another. But to be able to be fully present to
another we must give without expectation of our needs being met in
any way by the individual to whom we give. The question is, “How do
we meet our needs if we are going to give to another without
expectation in return?” The inner dance is to give to another but
not at the expense of sacrificing ourselves without replenishment.
It is to dance between giving to another and then giving to
ourselves to met our need. Exactly what this dance will looks like
is different for each of us. There are commonalities but in general
the dances our different.
The
outer dance
is to realize we are all alike. We each have things we need in life
and if those needs are not met, we can not fully and effectively
functions. The outer dance is about giving without damaging
our truth to both nourish and create a
safe and secure space for another. But it is to be able to receive and/or withdrawal
to meet our inner need.
The answer is to do an dance with another we each alternates between
giving to meet the needs of another but to withdrawal to receive and
give to our inner world. This dance can only be done with each
individual in the awareness of their own needs and the desire to
nourish and create the
safe and secure space for another.
Unawareness and lack of full understanding of the nurturing process
(Top)
When one or both parties do not really understand their inner needs
and/or how to give to another in the way that meets the need of the
other, something like the
Fifteen Creative Steps/Guidelines is
appropriate. Here a give and take occurs between two individuals
within the bounds of the step/guideline. In each holding the other
accountable as they work through the steps/guidelines, each gives
the other the space to find their
truth and work their way into
deeper and deeper truths.
We cannot give what we do not have
(Top)
We cannot give what we do not have. Unless we know what
truth is we
cannot give truth. Unless we know what it means to live the
truth of our being, we cannot
create the space for another to live their
truth. Unless we know how we compromise
our truth because of outside
influences imposed on us, we cannot being to take those influences
away from another for them to live their truth. Similarly we cannot
guide an individual to any depth greater than we have gone.
Supporting another
(Top)
The best we can do for another is
set the
intention to explore the
depth and breadth of our being and give another a
safe and secure space the best we can for them to explore theirs. As we move into
the depth and breadth of our being, we will create a deeper and
deeper space for them to move into. As we learn what types and kinds
of external things that have kept us bound we can see how to help
remove them from another’s life and/or assist another from becoming
trapped by them.
Getting support from another
(Top)
In getting support from another, we will face the same types and
kinds of issue of giving support but in the reverse direction. That
is, another cannot give us what they do not have and they cannot
guide us to depth they have not gone. However, another can give us
the space for us to become true to ourselves. But if they have not
given themselves permission to experiences such a space, they cannot
give that space to another. If they do not like what they experience
in such a space, they can always leave.
Ideally it is to get support from one who is willing to hold our
interest before their interest when it come to expressing
our truth.
The recommendation made here is to
allow
effectiveness to be our measure of truth. If what they are doing is allowing us to grow and
expand into the truth of our own being and we are fully able to
hold
our creativity sacred and they
create the space for us to freely
express
our truth, then they are someone who is supportive of our
journey.
When we are served, we will be moving into the
fulness of being and what gives us life and a desire to engage life.
If however, we feel contraction or in someway becoming less than we
can be we are not being served. If we find our creativity being some
how thwarted and our
creative spirit is not
free to express itself
in the way it needs to be express, again, we are not being served.
If we feel life and our
freedom being taken away from us there is
some aspect or part of our being which is not served.
Learning to become a light unto ourselves to give what we have
(Top)
(However we progress on our journey and whether or not we receive
assistance, we should be moving into our own
truth and becoming a
light unto ourselves. That is, we do not need an external source or
reference to hold us accountable to
our truth. Rather the truth of
our own being and the uniqueness we have to offer is sufficient to
motivate us to move into life.
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