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To become
intimate with something,
we need to focus our attention and awareness on it. We need to
study it and explore its features in detail. Intimacy results from a
close study and familiarity with a matter. It is to explore the
inner most nature or being of the object. To is to discover and
understand what is essential and intrinsic to its nature and being.
To become
intimate with another individual
we need to both explore
their features in detail but also communicate with them at each and
every level of their being. Intimacy with an individual is
characterized by pronounced closeness in friendship, relationship or
association. But it is more than that. Intimacy is usually about
being free to express those things that are deeply personal and
private. It is about revealing to another those things one is not
free to share in public or even with a small group of individuals.
For many, intimacy is only about sexual relations for only in our
sexuality do we being to reveal some of our most deepest and private
needs and desires. For some, intimacy means having illicit sexual
relations . It is illicit because they are unable to express their
sexual needs to a chosen spouse or those in their life so they go
else where. For many, sexuality is the only time they are exposed
and seen naked by another. As intimacy get associated with
sexuality. However, one does not have to become sexual to become
intimate with someone. True intimacy is about being fully naked in
our truth before another at each and every level of our being
without the need for any masks covering our truth. In this regard,
true intimacy makes one very vulnerable for one is totally revealed.
True intimacy is not about standing up and exposing your truth in
nakedness. Rather, intimacy comes from or results from a close or
familiarity with another. Yet, being close or familiar with
something does not guarantee an intimacy will exist. Becoming
intimate takes one to the deeps levels of being. It is about going
to the heart - where life and the essence originates. For some,
there is great fear in doing that. For some, they become too
vulnerable and they need assurances of a safe and secure space to go
there.
Intimacy is about going to the heart of another. The heart is seen
as that place where firmness of will or courage are seen to reside.
In going to our heart we are seen going to our innermost thoughts or
feelings. We are see as going to that vital, essential part or the
essence of our being. To become
intimate with oneself or another we
are seen going to the heart for the heart is seen as the central or
inner part of anything. In meeting a person in the heart we move to
become intimate with them. Although there is spiritual, mental,
emotional and physical intimacy that is possible with an individual,
it is when we go to their heart and meet them in the heart at their
essence are we able see and experience real intimacy at each level
of being.
An intimate relationship
An
intimate relationship is about
creating the space where each individual is free to reveal their
most intimate details at each and every level of their being. What
is revealed is without fear of judgment on what is expressed and/or
without fear the information being used in any way that would harm
them or violate the trust in which what is revealed is shared. It is
to create a space where each individual is totally free to express
the essence of their being without an need for masks to hide who and
what they are. Secrets and/or the need to protect oneself is not
necessary and uncalled for in an intimate relationship.
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