Sexuality as a tool for awakening 

A Releasing Your Unlimited Creativity discussion topic

Copyright 2009 by K. Ferlic,   All Rights Reserved

Consciousness awakens consciousness and each experience we have with another provides an opportunity to awaken ourselves and the other individual. Because of how our sexuality is tied to both biological preferences and enculturated opinions, it offers a tool for awakening that is unparalleled for understanding the biases, judgments and filters we are using to view Creation.

It can operate on several different levels when it is understood. Human sexuality goes well past the urge to procreate and it is for this very reason we can use it as a tool for awakening for it the door way to physical intimacy, the body wisdom and deeper aspects of our being. If we learn to move past the sex of sexuality without denying or suppressing the sexuality and utilize the physical intimacy of the body, awakening can occur. The awakening will allow one to see the nature of attachments, the nature of the body desires and needs as opposed to wants, and access the wisdom of the body.

The process to learn the nature of attachments and understand the desire and needs of the body is conceptually very simple. We are all drawn to an idea mate, that beloved, whether we see that beloved as a person or our concept of God. Knowing that mind will frame the energy it experiences the best it can based on the experiences it has had, we can explore how mind is creating the illusion it is using to view Creation by how it response to the external muse or any other individual or thing to which it is drawn and/or finds sexually stimulating. In doing so, we can transcend the filters mind mind is using and move past the issue of sex and sexuality. We can use the new found freedom we find to explore physical intimacy and awaken the wisdom and knowledge of the body. Then in the awareness of the body wisdom and intuitive guidance, free from the binds of both the body and our enculturation we can explore the true depth and breath of our creative power.

The basis process for using sexuality for awareness, awakening, enlightenment, and transformation is essentially the same and discussed in the topic, "Basic process for awareness, awakening, enlightenment and transformation through sex." The way to use sexuality as a tool for awakening, as a tool for enlightenment and a tool for transformation all start with the same basic approach. It is only the application of what is found in different. What is achieved is determined by how we have focused our attention and awareness on what arises in sexuality. The discussion here focuses on sexuality as a too for awakening. The basic approach we need to take if we intend to use sexuality as a tool is discussed in the topic, "Sex, the basic approach."

Awakening is about becoming aware. Becoming aware is about seeing the relationships between what we experience. It is to begin to see the cause effect relationships and the resulting cause effect chain. Understand that of which we are aware and how to use to which we have awaken is about being enlightened. Acting to use the enlightenment we access is about becoming a conscious creator.

By becoming physically intimate with another, at the deepest levels of our physicalness, the door is open to become both deeply intimate with the physicalness of our own body and at each and every level of our being and to become intimate with the way the Source of Creation expresses Itself. We awaken to Creation Itself.

The essence of sexuality as a tool for awakening arises from the fact that sex is about creating life. It is often about creating life to keep one or the other alive or to keeps some part of our being or their being alive. It can also be use to resurrect dead parts of our being.

This is a very important understanding. In addition to creating life, it keeps us alive whole or in part and to resurrect dead parts of our being. It this regard, sexuality is very much about awakening and we experience any awakening as a new life within our being for we now have the awareness to live differently in life.

Levels to feelings within sex

For most individuals if they are free to engage in sex, having sex feels good. Many have sex simply because it does feel good and offers and escape from the pain, mundane or other less that pleasurable aspects of life. However, few ever pay attention to why it feels good and how we choose our preferences. If one looks into the feelings of sexuality they will find at least three levels to the feelings. One is simply that it physically feels good and that feeling serves an important biological function. In many ways sex feeling good is a secondary sexual characteristic to ensure the survivability of the species.

However, the feelings of behind sexuality go much deeper that simply making it attractive for the survival of the species and an extravagance of the brain. The second level of feeling is that sex is about being totally enthused with our creative life energy at every level of being and feeling and being in this flow of energy. In this regard, sex is about the heart and living the heart with a passion and enthusiasm for life and for living. When we are free to be in this flow, surrendering to the flow and feeling it throughout our being, we are at the door way to physical intimacy and we move to the third level of feeling.

Sexuality is about awakening the feeling of the body and is part of the body’s wisdom. It is about become intimate at each and every part of our body. This cannot be done until our creative life energy is allowed to enthuse all parts of our body. It is here we can move past the sexuality to access the wisdom of the Source of being and the wisdom of the universe. It is here we can readily claim our birthright and destiny as a being of unlimited creativity. If we are able to move past the sexuality being free to act as lead by the flow of energy within our being, we will find sexuality only leads us to physical intimacy. When we learns how to be physically intimate with another and they are free to be physically intimate with us, there is a deep awakening that results. We begin to see and know things that are otherwise unimaginable. It is a door way to your own Divinity and the Source of Life Itself. It is only something that can be experienced.

Ways sexuality can result in awakening

Sexuality can accelerate our awakening in eight ways. One way is that consciousness awakens consciousness. We each need another to give us any experience. In interacting with another the possibility is open for them to awaken us to what we know and we awaken them to what they know. This is the way any individual with whom we interact can awaken aspect of our being.

The second way is that sex is about mixing energies. Sex is about mixing genes to provide a variability to the offspring to enhance survivability of the offspring of the species. What is not understood is sexual intimacy with someone causes the energies of each to mix more intensely. There is mixing of energy at each and every level of being. In some way, some part of our energy is mixed with our partner. The mixing is only part of the merging of energy to create the new life. Energetically, we become a part of them and they become a part of us.

We can look at the mixing which occurs in sexuality as us taking on a part of the other person’s energy. But, this mixing is not so much about actually exchange energy although it can be looked at in this manner. Rather, we can simply see it as consciousness creating an experience to awaken consciousness such that each awakens an aspect of consciousness in the other that is currently asleep or dormant. It is about awakening an aspect of our consciousness which creates a new flow of energy within our being as it awakens. The awakened consciousness now look like we absorbed or took on a part of the other’s energy. Either way we look at it is fine for the end result is the same. Similarly, this awaken consciousness can be experienced as a new life within us. Here gain, how we view it is our choice.

We can then choose to keep that awareness awaken and maintain the flow of energy or we can allow it to go back to sleep. However, in allowing it to go back to sleep because we find it undesirable, we may find ourselves putting other aspects of our consciousness asleep. Namely the reasons and thinking which allowed us to initially to engage in sex come into question in our mind because it lead to the awakening some undesirable aspects or having some undesirable experience. By choose not to do as we did, we develop response patterns to life that puts our creativity in a cage of our own making much the way we did as a child. Rather than pulling the string and finding out why the experience was undesirable and addressing the root issue, we simply shut down a part of our being.

If we pay attention, we will see we think different in some way as a result of a sexual interaction. This then controls our creative life energy in two ways. One way is we take on a part of them. That part of them which we take on may, or many not, free our energy to create what we desire. They may simply act as a parasite sucking our energy rather than allowing the creative energy to freely flow into our desired creation. Some may even feel a confusion for they have no context for understanding the energy they pick up form their partner. The second way is our what we think and believe shifts in some way and that shift redirects our energy.

On a very positive note, we can look forward to what is exchanged and even do things with each other to enhance awaken part of our being. Role playing and metatheater accompanying the sexuality can be quite powerful at awaking insights and surfacing issues where we shut down our creativity in both our current life and experiences that transcend our current life that like in the realm of our transcendental mind.

A third way is the energy which is generated through the sexual interaction is an increase in both our life force and our creativity. Sex under the correct conditions can be seen and used to call forth a creative spirit that has been bound and captive. The flow of energy within the individuals acts as life giving waters which bring life to dead or dormant aspects of our being. We can literally be transformed through a sexual experience depending on what awakens or dies in the sexual interaction.

The fourth way is simply to awaken to how and what we have come to think and believe and what we need to do to have creative freedom in our life, especially our creative imagination. It is to pull the string and explore what we feel and why we have the particular thought, feelings, ideas, impression and the like which we do before, during and after the sexual experience. We only need to look deeply at why one feels sexual towards one person an not another. If our sexual drive was purely a mating response without any biological or enculturated and social preferences, any mate would do. Yet there are both biological and enculturated preferences. If we surrender to what we feel, we will find there is a specific type and kind of individual to whom we are drawn. If one looks at the flow of energy within our being and pull the string on why it leads us one way and not another there is an understanding and tremendous enlightenment that can come with this process.

It is to realize that there is not a person on the face of the earth we cannot passionately love and have a love affair at each and every level of our being. All that stands in our way is our own mind. Being able to understand and act on this statement is a very step in awakening and the result of a very deep awareness. It goes to the essence of what our mind controls and how it controls our life. It is this statement that lies at the key of using sexuality as both a tool for awakening and a tool for enlightenment. It is to ask our selves why we can make love to others as we have made love or are making love to the individual currently in our life. Of course we could ask the question, "Why would you want to have a passionate love affair with any given individual and what would we desire to create with them and why, in particular, why them as opposed to anyone else?" But that is another issue.

As a tool for awakening, the statement "there is not a person on the face of the earth we cannot passionately love and have a love affair at each and every level of our being "allows us to awaken to what we believe. If we pull the string on whatever answer we give ourselves as to why we prefer one individual over another, and/or we are free to act, or not act, in our area and not another, we can come to understand how and what we think and believe and why. In exploring what we think and believe and why we think and believe what we do, and why we are free or not free to act in a given situation, we will become enlightened both about ourselves and how mind creates the illusion which is giving rise to the experiences we have.

Also there is another way to look inward but with a slightly different focus as to why we pursue the particular individuals we do. If we look inward and pull the string we can eventually come to find that within each of us is an inner masculine and inner feminine. If we look carefully enough we will see there is a marriage which occurs with this inner masculine and inner feminine. However, if the marriage does not occur with a mature inner masculine and mature inner feminine, we will never find the satisfaction we seek in life with any other external to ourselves. That is, we need to learn to do internally that which allows our inner masculine and inner feminine to both come to maturity.

To figure out what we need to do for our inner masculine and inner feminine to bring them to maturity, we can use our external sexual interest to figure out what they are. Knowing our inner world is reflected in the outer, we only need to look at what we are doing externally to know they are a reflection of our internal world and the relationship of our inner masculine and inner feminine.

The guiding principle we can use is to realize from a position of wholeness, we are whole and complete unto ourselves. We do not need any other to complete us. However, creation/Creation is not done alone. We need another to have the experiences we desire to have. Ideally we should not be seeking anything from another other than to share ourselves, experience the other and to share the journey of life. Wherever we are unable to just simply share but are seeking to get something tells us where our inner masculine or inner feminine has not matured. We only need to look at how we are trying to get what we desire to awaken to know if it is our inner masculine or inner feminine which must be addressed.

A fifth way is to flow the lead of the flow of energy which arises. It is adopt a beginner’s mind and enter a state of spontaneous and innocent childlike play of discovery and exploration of the energy and the experiences to which it leads. Surrendering to the flow of energy opens the door to learning to use the feminine power of creation. It also opens the door to using the sexual as the second most creative state and move us toward the most creative state of being.

The sixth way is through physical intimacy and the deep feelings which arise in sex are able to awaken our body and what it feel if we do not focus solely on the sex. Sexuality is the door way to both physical intimacy and awakening feelings of the body. For some, sex is the deepest feelings they will ever experience. But there are deeper feelings beyond the sex. In any case, the feeling of sex allow us to open to our body and what it feelings to become physically intimate with our body and awaken our body wisdom and expand our intuitive guidance.

If one can move past making sexuality the end objective and make the physical intimacy the objective, sexual intimacy causes something else to happen. It awakens the feelings of the body at its deepest levels and coupled with the calmness it is capable of creating at all levels of being will cause to surface the issues that are blocking the free flow of our creative life energy. Then when the memories surface, we are be free to choose how we dissipate the energy locked in those memories. What we can experience is an expanded awareness brought on by the energy of the sexuality. What needs to be understood is one does not need to transform sexuality or the sexual energy. Rather we only need to move beyond the sexuality as the end point of sexual intimacy and look into the flow of energy and flow with the energy and see what it surfaces within oneself and the other.

There is incredible information in the energy which arises in or from sexuality. But it is not something that can be done alone. The need for another to go into the body. It is not about sex. It is about directing the energy and using the energy that can become available in sex. However, what we can access is integrally linked as to how the other desires to use that energy. Sex and where the energy goes is not only our individual choice but it also directed by the intention of the other individual. In understandings the door is open to awakening to see how creation/Creation at any level of being is not done alone and we need that other. That, in turn, leads us to awaken to how much creative power we really have.

A seventh way to use sexuality to awaken is to avoid it. This is actually the simplest and most widely use form of sexuality. It is to become celibate where one simply avoids it. In this case the understanding that drives the choice of celibacy is that the time, attention and energy one would devote to sexuality can be used for creating a detachment from the physical to achieve a more spiritual state. At one level of understanding this is true for sexuality does pull our attention and awareness into the physical. However, there is nothing wrong with sexuality causing us to focus their energy into the physical experience for that is the reason why we incarnated. However, sexuality exists to serve and assist our purpose for incarnating in a variety of ways. To deny sexuality, suppress it, or control it without understanding it and the energy behind it, one only creates a separation within our being from the very source of life within us that sustains us and generates both an enthusiasm for life and for living and the desire to share and propagate the life within thought sexuality.

An eighth way to use sexuality to awaken is as it has been used in Tantra and similar esoteric and religious practices. Here on attempts to channel the sexual energy and it powerful emotional response into a spiritual manifestation through visualization, meditation, and other techniques through a focused attention and awareness.

Observations

Awakening is related to both becoming mindful and aware and enlightened as to how we create our experiences. Awakening is about seeing differently because of the experiences we have had. To awaken, we must be mindful and aware that we do see differently and more often than not, we have an enlightenment about something because we see it differently. That is, we have awakened or become aware of a deeper truth about ourselves, other or Creation. Sexuality has a nature ability to awaken deeper aspects of our being. Some pleasant, some not so pleasant.

The life giving energy of sexuality has a way of creating a flow of energy capable of flushing out of our being that which does not serve life. It has a way of awakening and bringing the waters of life to dead, dormant or inactive part of our being. When the waters of life flow in such a way that they flush out our being, we should not be surprised at awakening memories and aspect of our being that originate in experiences before our current life Whether or not we perceive them as being previous experiences of physical life that some would call past live or just experiences or of other realms of existence doesn’t matter. What needs to be understood is that when the waters of life flow in an overabundant way much like the energy and passion we can access in an intense passionate sexual experience, we can and will awaken parts of our being we never knew existed. This aspect of sexuality is key component which allows for sex to be used as tool for awakening, a tool for enlightenment and/or a tool for transformation. Sexuality is capable of helping us reconstitute our creative power and can put us in closer contact with the Source of our being  and the Source of life.

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