Removing victim consciousness - accessing our creative power


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Copyright 2006 by K. Ferlic,   All Rights Reserved

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As we begin to align our life with our creative passion and the reason for our  current incarnation, one begins to access the depth and breadth of our creative power and creative ability. In arranging our life to move more into this alignment we will being to see how we have given our creative power away and to whom, or what, and why. In this awareness we can take back our power to manifest the life experiences of our choosing.

However, often we find we have been living in, or with, a victim consciousness. A victim consciousness robs us of our creative power and is simply no more than giving our creative power away to some perceived external cause. One of the more common ways in which we give away our creative power is to allow someone or something external to us to determine how we feel. It needs to be remembered our creative power lies in feelings and having the passion to act. When we allow others to determine how we feel, we give away our creative power and make us a victim of their actions.

We must go back into our past to recover what was given away. Whether the loss was physical or non-physical, we must literally or symbolically go back and reclaim that part of ourselves or that aspect of energy that we allowed to be taken from our control.

The deepest origins of victim consciousness go back to when we were an infant. As an infant, we had not yet developed a conscious mind to control what we do. Internally we were free to do whatever we felt like doing. In innocence, and if we were innocent now, there is nothing we would see that would cause us to feel threatened. Pain and suffering were unknown till we experienced it. Since we had not yet developed a conscious mind to create the tension between what we felt like doing and what our mind wanted to do, there was no internal pain.  Hence, anything and everything that threatens us came from the external world. As an infant, we felt no constrains on any of our actions until there were constraints somehow imposed from our external world.

As discussed in the topic “Loss of Creative Play,” we developed response patterns to protect ourselves. However, something else often also occurs. That is, we develop a victim consciousness. Since we did not have a conscious mind and sufficient experience to know how to respond in a way that did not give away our creative power, often the response patterns we developed put the control of the situation with the perceived cause of our pain. We consciously or unconsciously saw ourselves at the mercy of whatever was causing our pain. As this very young child, we had no awareness as to how we could have prevented the pain we experience, so we see all the power external to us.

What is important to realize here is that not all of our response patterns created a victim consciousness. Some were simply to protect ourselves and not give away control of the situation to the external cause. However, frequently we also gave away control of the situation. So, in addition to dealing with a response pattern that does not serves us, we may also have to deal with the fact we carry a victim consciousness relative to what the response pattern was designed to provide protection.

As we grew in life and our conscious mind developed, we began to develop likes and dislikes. Having a like or a dislike is always based on some past experience. We have no basis to make any judgement about the unknown as to whether it will be something we like or dislike. In addition to developing response patterns to protect our creative spirit from being thwarted in its creative expression, we began to experience the fact that there are things that we are lead to do but our care givers felt or thought otherwise. In addition to response patterns we developed we also began to overlay judgements of likes and dislike. We now also started to have associations of like and dislike and/or good and bad on what we saw controlling our actions. This in turn started to overlay judgments of like and dislike and/or good and bad on that which was controlling us.

Depending on how we are raised, some of us were gently lead to learn particular patterns in life where as others of us were forcibly if not violently lead. What we experienced from our care givers, many times was based as much on our own temperament and desires, as much as what was done to us. We either became to feel very controlled and dominated and not free to express ourselves, or we felt loved and nurtured, and of course, with a infinite number of shadings between these extremes. As a child we craved love, affection and attention. We desired to be nurtured even if we did not understand what we needed to be nurtured. If we didn’t get that love, affection and attention, we felt a type of pain. So there are many things we learn to suppress within ourselves to ensure the love, affection and attention of our care givers. Few of us had been loved unconditionally.

Whether our care givers realized it or not, they expected us to grow a certain way which they considered normal and/or the way they wanted us to be. They did what they could to help us to achieve their definition of normalcy. Their expectations may have been something as simple as our care givers expecting us not to cry when they were busy attempting to do something other than give us attention. So early in life, we learned to choose in such a way that the external world gave us a pain free life and that we got what we wanted - love and attention. The question is, in how many of these cases did we also give away our creative power such that we were at the mercy of others to get what we felt we needed.

The deepest origins of victim consciousness lies in the fact that we had to give up our preferred way of being and doing in the world to get the attention and affection of our care givers. We had to give up what we desired and wanted in life as we explored life. Three questions ultimately need to be asked of this process. The first question is, “Did we learn to deny a part of ourselves in this process?” The answer of course, is "yes." The second question is then, “What part did we deny and how much did we deny?” The third question is that of victim consciousness, “In denying a part of ourselves, did we give the power in an attempt to regain that part of ourselves with another.”

A classic example would be a care giver saying, “you are a useless little kid.” Our response would then most probably be to no longer do whatever it was that caused our care giver to call us useless. That of course denies that part of our being. We then would act in a way to please the care giver to get the love and attention we desired. This response then creates the response pattern we develop to please others that may not serve us as an adult. If we also look to the care giver as the criteria to determine if we are useless or not, we create a victim consciousness. If we think and/or feel we need our care giver to say how useful we are in life before we think or feel useful, we carry a victim consciousness. That part of our being can never be regained unless we hear words from a care giver proclaiming our usefulness. If however, we know we are useful and don’t really care what a care giver thinks, we have no victim consciousness.

In any case, no matter how supporting and loving our care givers may have been, the fact is that our consciousness inhabits a body. We all have learned to feel the control by our bodies in some way. We feel its pain, we feel its hunger and we feel its tiredness. Although we many not want to feel pain, feel hunger or feel tired, our consciousness seems to have little control over the body. So, as a minimum, we can expect that most of us feel somewhat controlled and dominated by the needs of our bodies.

The needs of the body also causes us to tend to identify ourselves with our bodies. Many of us come to feel and think we are our bodies because the needs of the body and the experiences of the body are so dominate in our early life. One of the most significant ways we have been controlled by our bodies is by pain and the fact that we are susceptible to feeling pain. In fact, feeling pain has been used by many individuals in authority over us to create pain at some level of our being to control one or more aspects of our being. It is only natural to develop defense mechanisms or methods of protecting ourselves from pain and/or perceive pain or painful conditions. The question is, do we develop a victim consciousness to go with our response to these individuals in their use of pain?

The main reason why we develop a victim consciousness is because our consciousness comes to believe we are our bodies as opposed to seeing ourselves as the creator of our experiences. Consciousness defines itself by the experiences it has. Since we awaken in a body, and so many of those early experiences are of the body, we identify with the body and treat aspects of our consciousness as if it functioned as the body.

The process is relativity quite simple. The brain of the body is the central processing station for all the sensors the body possess. It is the brain that assimilates and integrates all the sensor input of the body into a composite picture of the condition of the body and its environment. The brain’s primary function is to assimilate all the sensory input to protect and regulate the body and assist the body in living its physical existence. The brain is also the location of where our consciousness and mind seems to, or are perceived to, reside. It is the center of our thinking and seemingly our awareness. Individuals with dis-functional brains, will not exhibit the type and kind of awareness and mental capabilities that we consider as being a normal human. Hence it is only natural to see the reasoning portions of our mind and the brain as determining what it means to be a functioning human being.

Since most of our early life experiences were focused on learning to utilize and manipulate our bodies, we tend to define ourselves by the external experiences we have rather than by what experiences we may have internal to our being. When we are young, and frequently encouraged by our care givers, we tend to dismiss internal experiences as the product of our imagination and not real even when and if they are a correct assessment of the situation we face. So quite naturally, we associate our mind, that thinking, judging and analyzing part of our consciousness with the brain and head and attach the identity our consciousness forms about itself, the ego, to the body and the functions of the brain and its sensory input.

Our mind believes it is the experience of its sensors and our ego comes to believe it is the experiences it has had. Since the brain and the awareness of our mind is so focused on protecting the body, the mind learns also to protect the ego it creates from the experiences it has in the body in the same way it protects the body. However, the mind in protecting the body from the external influences creates the seeds of a victim consciousness. That is, our consciousness suffers and feels pain as a result of external influences. It creates a perceived identity, the ego, based on what it experiences. But, the identity of the consciousness is not determined by the external world, unless it choose to be so affected. Whether or not our consciousness becomes a victim consciousness depends entirely as to whether or not we feel we are powerless to negate or remove the controls of the external world and/or the pain and discomfort that we feel within our being.

A victim consciousness is where our consciousness thinks its identity is controlled by our external word and that we are unable to do anything about the identity we have and are at the mercy of these external influences. But nothing could be father from the truth. Our conscious awareness is what creates the identity we have. Our identity is not what creates our conscious awareness.

The easy and seemingly simple approach to removing a victim consciousness is to first remove ourselves from the external power that has control over us. It would appear we only need to follow the recommendation that is repeatedly emphasized to us that we can drop the past for we are not our experiences - that is to forgive and forget. But, unfortunately, it is not that simple. The experiences we have is what determines how we frame or interpret the energy that we experience.

The fact that we have removed ourselves from the experience and have forgiven and forgotten does not remove from our mind the fact that it may have no other way to characterize the energy that we experienced as being a victim. Although we have seemingly forgiven and forgotten what may have been done to us, the victim experience that we had, suffering at the hands of another, may be the only experience we had with that type and kind of energy represented by that particular type and kind of person. This means that every time we experience that type and kind of energy, our mind frames it, or characterizes it, such that we have victim’s response to that energy. Or we see ourselves as a victim. This means we implement whatever defense mechanism that we developed to respond to the victimization that we had.

A simple example may help. Someone leaves a metal rod half lining in the hot coals of a fire place. They tell us to take it out and put it on the stone ledge surrounding the coals. Since we never done that before, we follow their direction and we grab the piece of metal and we get burnt. We get angry at the person who told us to pick it up because they did not tell us it was hot. We may forgive them and forget that they ever told us to pick up the hot iron. But every time we go to pick up a piece of mental in what seems to be in potentially hot coals, we will use something to protect our hand for we will have experienced the energy of the situation as something that can be hot and painful unless we are protected. Similarly, every time someone tells us to pick up a piece of metal near something hot and doesn’t tell us it is hot, we wonder if they are trying to harm us.

The protective action that we implement to prevent feeling pain will be carried with us into the future in both ways. It is very difficult to break the habit and trust that every piece of metal half in hot coals will not be hot and that the person telling us to pick it up without telling us it is hot is out to harm us. We will follow our experience and our experience suggests the iron will be hot and without the individual telling us it is hot,  we believe they are out to harm us, or at least they do not have our best interest at heart.

We do this same type of thing for every experience of pain that we have at every level of our being. It makes a lot of sense to continue to utilize techniques of the past when there is a real bonafide hazard. As long as we are guaranteed that the energy of the situation will ways flow the same way, this is a very wise way to live. However, the energy will not always flow the same way in any given situation, even if it appears that it will. It will always flow or follow the path of least resistance unless there is free will and ability to change the energy of the situation.

When dealing with what we call the inanimate forces of nature, we can almost always guarantee the energy will flow the path of least resistance. That is the whole basis of physics, chemistry and astronomy. The evidence suggests that it is a correct understanding for how successful physics, chemistry and astronomy have been at predicting the outcome of any given arrangement of energy it studies.

However, when it comes to pain that has been inflicted by another individual which has a free will and consciousness unto themselves, although the energy that is being experiences may feel the same, we need to look carefully as to whether or not we are open to what is as it is or we are judging the energy from past and our ego. When free will is involved, the energy no longer necessarily flows along the path of least resistance. It flows in the direction of where the consciousness has focused it attention and awareness. Or alternatively said, a person’s focused attention and awareness changes the path of least resistance This is true for us and/or the other individual.

When individuals are out of mind; the thinking, judging, analyzing and controlling part of their being, the energy will flow according to the path of least resistance for the arrangement of objects. When we are in our thinking, judging, analyzing and controlling mind, the energy flows according to where and how we have focused our attention and awareness. That is, we can change the path of least resistance for the situation at hand for we change the conditions of the situation by our observation. Hence, if we have a perception and view that is characterized as being a victim, a victim consciousness, every experience of energy we have we will be experienced as a victim to some degree. Because we have focused our attention and awareness on being a victim, that is how we will experience the energy. The fact that a big powerful person gets excited and forcibly tells you to stop doing something does not necessarily mean they are trying to control us. They may only be personally excited and are trying to prevent us from harming ourselves. However, our experience of the past has interpreted that excited energy as being another attempt by a powerful person to control us.

The ego is simply how our consciousness has chosen to define itself based on the experiences it has had. It is who we think we are and how we think the universe operates. However, the consciousness that created the ego is much more than the experiences it has had and used to define the ego. Only the ego and the physical body are touched with anything that happens on the physical plane. The consciousness that is witnessing the experiences we have is untouched and unaffected unless it chooses to be affected. The consciousness is never touched.

The ego is very subject to injury and much like the body in this regard. If the ego perceives someone intends harm, it will defend itself whether or not the individual means harm or not. However, the ego is normally very wounded. It exist almost as an open wound because it has been so hurt by the experience of life. It remembers all that has happened to it for what has happened to it is what defines it. In the same way a cut will bleed blood, the ego that is wounded bleeds creative life energy and literally and figuratively drains the energy that we use to create and sustains the reality that we experience. We only need to touch one of its painful memories and it will respond and remember the pain and, in doing so, it will response in anger, withdrawal or some similar defensive action. That defensive action drains our power to respond. A simple word or a gesture by another, that other person may not even be aware of making, may be sufficient to cause a response. The ego always thinks the other is responsible for causing its pain because the ego is defined by what you have experienced from your external world. Obviously we feel pain when someone or something external to us invades what is ours - our body, our beliefs, our opinions, our space, our property. We carry our wounds with us.

Our whole ego is constructed of many wounds. We carry it around everywhere. Our consciousness moves to stop the bleeding of our creative life energy though these wounds by some type “protective” action or defense mechanism. The ego itself is not the problem, the mind defending the ego and protecting it from the wounds of the past is the problem. It holds to these defensive actions no matter how inadequately they serve us. In reality we safeguard and protect our wounds rather than healing them for our actions tend to be based on protecting our ego from getting wounded again rather than healing the wound.

It takes energy to maintain these defenses and thus less energy is available for creation. When we are capable of living without ego, there is no ego to defend. There is no ego to be wounded. There are no open wounds of the past. In this case we are healthy, healed and whole. We have access to all our creative life energy.

We need to become aware of our wounds and not help them to grow or to continue to bleed. Wounds only heal when we move to address the root of the wound and remove the protective actions that we implemented that do not allow them to heal. The source of the wound is what the mind hold and remembers. When we move out of mind we move away form the wound and the wound heals.

With no mind or out of mind there is no wound on which to hold. When we feel hurt we become disturbed and our attention and awareness focus on the pain. That weakens our creative power and creative ability because it directs our energy into how to stop the pain, and/or how to get even or obtain justice. We are hooked and giving our power away. That is, we focus our attention and awareness toward those who appeared to cause our pain. We can spend a whole life time of energy the more we nurture the wound and “want justice or accountability” in that other individual.

No matter what happens to us and whatever pain we feel, nothing can take our power away unless we give it away. We give our power away by financing those memories that demand justice for the pain we have been given and/or experienced. In demanding that justice, our power is taken away simply because we focus our attention and awareness on those memories. Only we can recall and reclaim our energy. It is about learning to forgive and forget. But it goes deeper than that. It is about changing how we are allowing ourselves to experience that energy that caused our pain. We will continue to have those experiences that rob us of our energy. We will experience them for as long as we hold onto to them as the way we experienced the energy for we manifest that on which we focus our attention and awareness.

For us to hold the pain of the past , we create an endless life of pain. Only in letting go do we free ourselves from the pain and regain our creative power. To let go we need to see ourselves as the creator. We need to realize we created the experience or agreed to participate in it for some reason. Only by going within and looking can we find the reasons why we created the experiences we do. In looking within, we may come to realize creation/Creation cannot be done alone. It just may be we loved the other sufficiently to give them the experience they needed to have, even if it causes us some pain.

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